From romantic dramas to tensions at work, we’re often better at working through other people’s problems than our own — while we may approach our friends’ problems with wise, clear-eyed objectivity, we often view our own problems through a personal, flawed, emotional lens. But new research suggests that people who are motivated to develop the best in themselves and others don’t show this bias — they tend to reason just as wisely about their own problems as they do for others.